Charity should begin at home, but should not stay there. ~ Philip Brooks
You have not lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you. ~ Anonymous
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I’ve heard the phrase. I’ve even used the phrase on many occasions; ‘a necessary evil’. The phrase in itself sounds absurd. After all, don’t we all have the choice between right and wrong? Don’t we control our own moral boundaries? And if so, how can anything be necessary if we ourselves deem it distasteful, immoral, or unethical?
The phrase is meant to describe the need to agree or act against our own beliefs for a greater good. Thus, despite being against the agreement or action, we give in for the greater good. A compromise with our own values. We may not like it, but we accept it.
Well, folks, that got me to thinking about all of the other negatives in our lives. Negatives that we accept but should perhaps, instead, scrutinize. Here are just a few I thought of:
1) People speak of dark times in their lives or dark moods, but for us to identify darkness, there must be light. You can’t have shadows without light. So, when we have dark moods, shouldn’t we just think of lighter thoughts? A joke perhaps, or something that made us smile that day?
2) When a relationship doesn’t work out, we often hear of broken hearts, but we couldn’t experience a broken heart unless we had experienced love, correct? Therefore, we know that love was possible once, so chances are it will be again.
3) When someone complains of ‘bad luck’, shouldn’t they have gratitude towards their times of fortune? We wouldn’t know if we drank milk that soured unless we’ve had milk before. We wouldn’t know if something spoiled unless we’ve had it unspoiled. So it stands to reason that you can’t identify bad luck unless you’ve had luck.
4) Likewise, to my last point, when we complain of a ‘bad day’, shouldn’t we be grateful? After all, for us to know it’s a bad day, we must have had many good days to compare it to. Shouldn’t we be thankful for the many good days?
5) When we lose something. Maybe a job, a friend, a loved one…we tend to feel disillusioned, empty, maybe even depressed, but you can’t lose something that you never had. So shouldn’t we be thankful that we had that job? Shouldn’t we recognize previous friendships and loved ones as temporary blessings? And for each thing we may lose, doesn’t that lend opportunity to gain again? A new job? A new friend?
6) You can’t have heroes without villains. You can’t champion justice without an injustice having been perpetrated. You can’t advocate for a cause where there is no cause. For every guideline, rule or law there had to have been someone who caused us to create that guideline, rule or law. It doesn’t help with the injustices of the past, but doesn’t it help create moral and ethical boundaries for society as a whole, moving forward?
Bottom line, folks, you couldn’t identify anger if there was no happiness. You can’t have victors without someone falling in defeat. You couldn’t identify that which is right if no wrongdoing had been done in the past. You can’t lose anything you’ve never had, and you can’t regret lost opportunities if they were never made available to you. You can’t rise to the occasion if you have no challenges. You can’t overcome if you have no barriers. If we want to fully appreciate all of the good things that happen in our lives, then we’re going to have to accept all of the negative crap that comes with it… it’s kind of a necessary evil.